I'm fundamentally different, and don't fit in. I'm not worthwhile unless I'm accepted by those I admire. I can't be accepted by others unless I meet their expectations. If someone got to know the real me, they wouldn't accept me. These are among the common core beliefs and underlying assumptions that generate problems with social anxiety, shame and depression. It is easy to see how young people who sense they are different in some socially unacceptable way could come to learn