ARE YOU A LOVE ADDICT? IS LOVE YOUR DRUG? Jim is a 35 y.o. gay man who began psychotherapy because of difficulty finding a man and “settling down.” He identifies as a “serial monogamist” who stays in relationships on average two years until he becomes bored and disinterested. He realizes that he tends to fall for men who fall for him. In the short run, this fills his need to feel loved and loveable but after a while, he no longer wishes to maintain a relationship with them.