THE SHAME CODEX - A series of articles for individuals, families and clinicians who are working with abuse. ----- Survivors of extreme abuse have almost certainly heard the same threat from their abusers; “Don’t tell anyone, or--” The punishment may vary, but is calculated to strike to the heart:- “I will hurt your pet…” “I will hurt your mother…” “I will hurt you!” Many survivors have already lost the sense of a separate self who is capable of defiance, and “not tellin